Developing a Child's Self Esteem Part 1

This Series Came From Dr. Dallas Lummis of Chiro One Wellness Center

As Written By Jim Rohn

While This Series was Presented over two days, it will be broken down into mutiple blog sections for ease of reading!

Thanks For Your Interest In Helping Our Kids!

Ron Bishoff

Developing a Child's Self-Esteem

Blog Part One

Here's a new coaching topic that we'll discuss over the next two days.   An ancient Chinese proverb tells us, "A child's life is like a piece of paper on which every passerby leaves a mark."  We cannot teach our children self-esteem.  We can only help them discover it within themselves by adding positive marks and strokes on their slates.  All positive motivation is rooted in self-esteem - the development of which, just as with other skills, takes practice.  Think of self esteem as a four-legged chair.  For the next two days, we'll cover each of the legs of the "self-esteem" chair.  So let's jump right into the first three legs:

1-A Sense of Belonging - 

           The first leg of self-esteem is a sense of belonging.  We all have a deep-seated need to feel we're part of something larger than ourselves.  This need, which psychologists call an affiliation drive, encompasses people, places and possessions.  Our instinct for belonging - for being wanted, accepted, enjoyed, and loved by close ones - is extremely powerful.  It explains the bond of an extended family, friends, and teammates.  It also explains why some adolescents join gangs.  They want to belong, even if it's wrong.

          Make your children proud of their family heritage and make your home a place where they feel safe, loved and welcome.  Also, make your home a place where your children want to bring their friends, rather than a place they want to leave as soon as possible.